Savoring the Seconds: Encouragement for Not Missing the Precious Things in Life (Part 1)

Savoring the Seconds: Encouragement for Not Missing the Precious Things in Life (Part 1)

Savoring the Seconds: Encouragement for Not Missing the Precious Things in Life  (Part 1)

Life is full of hard.  And complicated.  And busy.  And exhausting.  Minutes blur into hours and those into days.  Each day we do the best we can to keep up with our responsibilities, whether it be working a job, managing a home, taking care of chronically ill loved ones or children with hidden disabilities.  It is so very easy to get wrapped up in what feels pressing and overlook what is precious.

I came across a poem today that touched my heart and I wanted to share it with you.

THE LAST TIME POEM

From the moment you hold your baby in your arms,

you will never be the same.

You might long for the person you were before,

when you had freedom and time

and nothing to worry about.

 

You will know tiredness like you never have before,

And days will run into days that are exactly the same,

Full of feedings and burpings,

Diaper changes and crying,

Whinning and fighting,

Naps or lack of naps.

It might seem like a never ending cycle.

 

But don’t forget…

There is a last time for everything.

There will come a time when you will feed

your baby for the very last time.

They will fall asleep on you after a long day

And it will be the last time you ever hold your sleeping child.

 

One day you will carry them on your hip, then set them down,

And never pick them up that way again.

You will scrub their hair in the bath one night

And from that day on, they will chose to bathe alone.

They will hold you hand to cross the road,

and then never reach for it again.

They will creep into your room at night for cuddles,

And it will be the last nigh you ever wake to this.

 

One afternoon you will sing “The Wheels on the Bus” and do

all the actions,

Then never sing them that song again.

They will kiss you goodbye at the school gate,

The next day they will ask to walk to the gate alone.

You will read a final bedtime story and wipe your

last dirty face.

They will run to you with arms raised for the very last time.

 

The thing is, you won’t even know it’s the last time…

Until there are no more times.

And even then, it will take you a while to realize.

 

So while you are living in these times,

remember there are only so many of them

and when they are gone, you will yearn for just

one more day of them.

For one last time.

–Author Unknown–

I want to encourage you, friends, and encourage myself, if there are children in our lives, be they your children, grandchildren, neighbor children, Sunday School children, be mindful of the moment you are in and the precious things that make up that moment.  Let’s make it a priority to put down the phone or the grocery list or the cookbook, and spend time with the child in THEIR WORLD, doing what they want to do.  If it is a small child, sit on the floor and play with them or pull them on your lap and read to them.  Cherish that moment, for it won’t always be. There is a day coming when they would rather be with their friends. Listen to their silly stories.  When they talk endlessly, let’s remind ourselves, a day is coming when the silence sets in and we will wish they talked to us like this.  Children climbing in our bed will be replaced with waiting for our teenagers late at night and hoping they get home safely from a date. Sleeping with a little person’s arm across your face doesn’t seem so bad.

Children leave childhood and change into preteen, teens and young adults.  When the kids were little we longed for this day, telling ourselves that when they become more independent (less dependent on us), then things will be easier.  Let me tell you from experience, this just isn’t so.  These years are also hard, just a different kind of hard.  Be the biggest cheerleader to the young person in your life.  Speak words that build up the things that are wonderful about them, but always speak truth into their lives.  And pray.  Ask God to get to the places they shut you out of and that He would keep a hunger for Him in their hearts.  Be available to listen when they want to talk, not when it is convenient for you.  Enter their world, when they let you or at least let them know that they are important to you and that makes you want to know what is important to them.  And lastly, I had a wise friend tell me once that when a teen is most unloveable, that is when they need to see and feel your love the most.

Now remember friends and remember self, this won’t last either.  The lives of these children will move on.  Other people will take permanent priority over you and those people will be spouses and children of their own.  So let’s savor the moments we have with children in our house. Let’s put on what I call “thankful glasses” so that we can search each situation for something to be thankful for, and keep those suckers on!  And instead of wishing away an age or being in a busy blur for years on end, we will see that children are a precious gift, but they are a gift that doesn’t last forever.

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